Emotional struggles: the price you pay for being human

 Emotional struggles : the price you pay for being human by Tyler Wroldsen

Obviously I am not the only one who worries about unnecessary things. All of us I guess do it; somewhere in the deepest realms of our minds we are worried about five or more things. Things like; why did I do that? Does he really love me? Why didn’t Andreas reply me? Am I going to succeed? What if I am wrong? People don’t  understand me maybe? Maybe I was too rude to him/her? I dont care!??? A bazillion of questions go on forever in our minds. We struggle emotionally almost every minute. But I am glad we dont go crazy. Yes that’s  the cost of being human. 

You are a conscious animal so your mind will be preoccupied. Meditation might help reduce this emotional struggles but few people do it. Most of us are almost always immersed in thoughts...We are never in the present that is why we struggle so much emotionally. We tell ourselves so many stories that are untrue. Things like; this is not for me or I am always right and others are wrong or nobody understands.!?? This is crap and contributes to self inflicted emotional torture. 

You need to know that your greatest enemy is your own mind. Identify yourself in the most simplest terms without attaching any special strings to your identity e.g I am just a 22 year old guy. Full stop, the more you narrow your identity the more you going to be conflicted emotionally. The more you will delude yourself and make many excuses.

Okay fine, I know this is driving you insane but lets be realistic now. Why do we really ghost each other? Is it because we struggle with healthy communication or is it because we don't have the confidence to be honest with ourselves and others and hence communicate openly?

I have seen that ghosting is one of the leading cause of emotional struggles and anxiety and ultimately depression.

Please lets act properly and frankly , we deal with people who have feelings, lets explain our actions sometimes not just going silent all of the sudden with no proper known reason...thats bad my brothers and sisters. When you are doing it to someone, it may not be that painful, but when its done to you, it’s  excruciating.

All right, emotional struggle won't end but we can manage it and keep it minimum.

prepare for surprises

 

Prepare for surprises

Unexpected announcements will be made. It’s better to warm up for the unexpected. Life is very funny, you will think you know what is going on around you but let me slap you with some truth in your face. You will never completely know what will happen in the next five seconds. Boom! A little microorganism changed the world in a couple of months. You see, you never expected that. Some people will blame Satan or some will say it’s a punishment from God. Of course human beings will always look for a scapegoat. That one of our weaknesses, like Dantallion Jones has put. But I want you to be cautious. Most of the time the perpetrator is amongst us. So don’t rush to look at your haters with big red eyes and start to throw middle fingers all around.

            Relax, take a deep breath (I know you won’t do it but just…), and prepare for surprises. Most of the time you will discover that, it is the person you call your best friend or your girlfriend that is behind your downfall. I am not saying this is the case each and every time things go horribly wrong, but sometimes it’s the people around you that are playing hide and seek with you. Don’t trust people too much. A little sense of distrust or doubt is healthy. So I just want to assure you that, prepare for the worst, since you don’t have complete control of everything that happens to you. Always have a backup plan.

            You will be betrayed, you meet greedy ungrateful toxic friends or partners. Scrutinize the people you call your brothers, sisters, boyfriends, girlfriends or best friends. Because you may never know what they after. In some of your plans, you don’t have to involve anyone until you have put them into action. So with that in mind, surprises will find you strong, healthy and emotionally prepared and they won’t drown you into depression (like most people do).