Why we talk behind other people's backs?

 Why do we talk behind other people’s backs?

 

Most of us are really cowards. We may claim to have physical strength and a lot of power but mentally we are really weak. Don’t feel offended yet, I am still trying to come to the point. Let’s say for example , you discovered that I am a drunkard who wastes all his money on booze at the local bars and also squander a lot of cash paying a couple of ladies to have coitus with them. And now you are my so-called friend or acquaintance or a colleague, what would be your first reaction?

Trust me , for many people, the first thing to do is to laugh out loud and quickly run to their friend’s house and gossip about the whole day. Most folks will never like come to you and address your weakness. I guess in a population of 100 people, only 0.0001% will come to you and try to help you. The rest will only talk behind your back and make a joke of the week.

The easiest thing many people do when they figure out another person’s weakness is to tell other people about it rather than telling the person who has the problem. Astonishingly, this is a common thing, even grown up adults do it, teenagers do it everyday. But to be frank, talking behind other people’s backs fucks up most of our relationships. It is the root of all anxieties and mental health problems in most of our relationships. It is even the cause of most breakups.

I find it very simple, if someone has a problem, you tell him  and help him find a solution to it. It’s a piece of cake right.Obviously it is easier said than done. Yet many people feel like they will be taken to prison for simply telling you that something is not right. Hell! You wont be taken to gaol lady. Nothing will happen to you boss. Simply tel the person whats not okay and then the issue will be addressed.

I think the reason why we talk behind other people’s backs is because we are insecure. And another reason could be that we strive to derive pleasure from other people’s bad circumstances hence we endeavor to publicize them. More-so,  It could also be that we are afraid of being honest. We don’t want to confront the truth most of the times because its scary and painful. We are therefore afraid that other people will think we are bad people. And another thing is that feeling of superiority you feel when another person has a problem that you don’t have. So gossiping about it makes you yourself feel special and the other person trash.

But we are fools when we think it only happens to others. It happens to everybody. And everything has happened before like Marcus Aurelius has said. So it can happen to you or to your kids as well.  The same circumstance that the other person is with currently dealing with, might be the same circumstance you will be dealing with two years from now.

So instead of being afraid to tell the person, you need to know that talking behind their back is ten times more harmful than telling them directly. If someone has a problem , the first person you should tell is that person with the problem, not somebody else. So lets stop being cowards and stop gossiping behind other people’s backs. Tell the person, they wont hate you bro, as long as you are polite and you are willing to help them then it wont be a big deal. Stop it please and promise yourself not to talk behind other people’s backs anymore.